Thursday, April 24, 2008

Hurting!

I had another post in mind to publish. It was a happy one like I always try to publish. One that would make you happy and smile because of all the wonderful friends I have. Tonight something happened to one of those friends that caused me not to feel so wonderful and joyful.


I have always been know as a girl with meat on her bones. I have spend most of my life being a big girl and being made fun of for it. I have always excepted who I am and thank God for it because I feel that it has made me a stronger person. I have learned to overlook the ignorants of others and to love people for who they are and not for what they look like. I think I am a much better person for it.


Tonight a friend went to dinner with her family. We have all done it and we cherish the time we get to spend with family. She is a big girl like me and has always walked with her head held high. Tonight she was brought to tears by the insensitive comments of others. Comments to disgrace her in front of family and strangers. These comments were not provoked or asked for, but given freely by teenagers who don't even understand the harm they have caused.


We live in a nation where everyone has the freedom to say what they please. Even though we have these freedoms, it does not mean that every thought that goes through your head should be spoken.How do I teach someone to overlook the heartlessness of others as I have? How do you stop the hurting that was brought on by another? How can I stand there and look her in the face and say "forgive them" when I myself feel sometimes not so forgiving? Life is to short to hold in the pain that others have brought on you but sometimes it can be so hard to stop the Hurting.

8 comments:

stacys1175 said...

Thank you my Sindi:)

Kathy said...

That was so wrong of those teenagers who did that. Kids can really be cruel sometimes. Hugs to you and your friend!

Suzie said...

That was so wrong. People can be so mean. Im sorry you and your friend went through that. Big can be beautiful you just have to make sure you see yourself that way...I think I should take my own advice too.

kasper794 said...

Both o fyou are wonderful people. But you know my heart goes out to her.

74WIXYgrad said...

People don't realize that with freedom come responsibility. We are responsible for all of our words and all of our actions.

That being said, children are a reflection of their parents, who were responsible for teaching their kids respect. But I have seen plenty of adults, especially family who cannot see the harm in hurtful words, thinking that saying, "I'm telling you this for your own good" should be an antiseptic.

But the first thing that should be taught is the golden rule-Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

And since Stacy was the one who revealed herself, I want to say that I know she has a goal and it's to improve the quality of her life. She has lost about 40 pounds already. I can't speak for everybody else, but I can personally say that I'm proud of her efforts.

struke said...

As a high school teacher, reading stuff like this upsets me. I know teens can be ignorant as can be. To me, there are a few ways to look at it. 1. it says a lot about the lack of parenting they're getting at home, 2. it says a lot about the lack of intellect on the individual making the rude comments and 3. it will probably take a LONG time for this individual to change.

Oh, and tell Stacy this...I am reading a book by Joel Osteen. It's a self-help book. He says some really great things in there. It sounds like Stacy definitely has the positive attitude and believes in herself. That's a plus.

I'm going through a rough stretch in my life now and Joel said this one thing that has stuck in my mind and that is that God says that for every bit of suffering you suffer through, God will pay you back two-fold. You just have to put your trust in God and believe He is at work for you and you are on your way!

Speedcat Hollydale said...

The good Lord loves us. That is the most important. Secondy, we need to love ourselfs. People can be heartless, yet in our hearts it is possible to love, forgive, and be saved. When I feel down, I pray! Sometimes I forget to call on the Lord - that seems to be when I am not feeling quite "right".
ohhh yes, Speedy loves ya too :-)

"If we pay the most attention to those with hatred in their souls, we loose vision. Those that love us, are our true friends, and they have the opinions that really count

Roger said...

People don't understand that words can hurt. I myself sometimes have to refer to the "sticks and stones" to feel better when someone cuts me down.